Sex File: I miss the lovemaking we used to have

Unfortunately my wife does not seem to love her body any more.
Sex File: I miss the lovemaking we used to have

I love my wife's body but she is self-conscious about certain positions that we always used to enjoy

I love my wife's body (and tell her so) but unfortunately she does not seem to love it herself any more. In particular, she is self-conscious about certain positions that we always used to enjoy. We're in our early fifties, so neither of us looks how we did 15 years ago. How can I convince her it doesn't matter?

Right now the best thing that you can do is to be supportive. That means prioritising her feelings and not making undue demands on her to have sex in positions that make her feel awkward or uncomfortable. It's not difficult. Stick to positions where the emphasis is on intimacy and connection. The missionary position is the most popular sexual position for a reason. It's comfortable and close and because you are focused on each other's eyes rather than each other's bodies, it will help your wife to feel less self-conscious. 

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